By Amanda Nadolny ‘12
Biology Content Tutor/Supplemental Instruction Leader
A few weeks into the semester my friends bought me a rose plant and a card. The card read, “Sorry for the death of your social life R.I.P., don’t worry mine’s dead too.” I found this highly amusing because it’s true. When summer ends and classes begin finding time for anything, let alone a social life, is difficult. That is not to say that no one has summer responsibilities, that we are all spending our days lounging by the pool drinking fruit smoothies, but there is much more ‘down time’ for activities and sociality that enriches life.
Over the summer I was able to wake up and walk on the beach every morning and enjoy its beauty. I was able to appreciate the importance of human interaction, I was able to try something new and take on the project of restoring a Victorian-looking dresser I found at a church tag sale.
Basically, I was living life.
Then summer ended and the fall semester began and it went from appreciating life and enjoying its beauty to rush, rush, rush. Suddenly, I had too much going on to organize it in my little paper agenda, and I needed to make an online Google-calendar so I could ‘move’ things around if something came up and more often than not, it did.
Sleep was a foreign word and food? What’s that? I dropped ten pounds in the first three weeks. I am sharing this information to make a point. It is wonderful and extremely fulfilling to be involved and busy with school but recognizing boundaries, and when you have reached them, is important as well. Managing your time is not solely about stuffing as much work as you can into 24 hours of the day, but it is about finding a balance.
When you’re doing (or studying) something you love, it is easy to get involved in numerous activities to bulk up your resume. Others see your enthusiasm and remember it- so when there’s an internship offer, a job opening, or any other type of wonderful opportunity, you will come to mind.
I am going to make it clear that it is extremely and utterly important to challenge yourself and expand your mind.
However, it is ok to say no.
It is ok to say, thank you for the opportunity but I am too busy to devote the amount of time it would require to do the job properly. Recognizing when you have taken on too much is difficult because you are doing everything you enjoy and are aspiring for. However, is it worth it or healthy to stress yourself to the point where eating and sleeping become weekend activities? Every now and then taking a step back, a deep breath and reflecting can do wonders and put things into perspective.
As a student, pushing yourself to your limits is important because it demonstrates that you’re expanding your potential and challenging yourself. Don’t base your judgments of how much you can handle on other people because you do not know what situation they are in. Yes, it may seem that they can juggle 21 credits, a full time job and still have free time to rescue little fuzzy animals from distress on weekends but you are not them and they are not you.
Who knows, maybe if they were in your shoes they would never succeed at what you’re doing, in the circumstances you’re under. So when you look around and see people who are succeeding at what seems like everything they do, don’t put yourself down because you are not in their situation (and they are not in yours).
